Tuesday, May 17, 2011

A Photo and Praise


I chose this picture for several reasons.
I like how the trees standing in water symbolize our lives at times,yet God still lives and He deserves our praise.
The last few weeks I feel like I am one of those trees,swamped by various things and circumstances.
I have been and should continue to be very busy keeping the flower beds looking decent.This is a new job for me this year.
Along with all the extra work,come floods of emotions that are draining my energy.Even though it has been 6 months since I said good-bye to the love of my life,the pain is so very real and the tears come often.I try hard to remain optimistic,but at times fall far short.I do not wish to burden others with my pain,and that includes my blogging friends,so the posting will be sporadic over the next while.
I do wish to give praise to God for being my Rock,even during trying times.
I know that this post has been quite wordy,but I wanted all of you to know why I might not be posting regularly.

40 comments:

  1. Oh Sweetie, Don't apologize... Get it OUT... We are good listeners.... We love you and we do understand.

    It's ONLY been 6 months.. It will take LONGER---and then there are times, even years later, when the pain will show up again.. That's just life ---and we ALL experience it at one time or the other.

    You and Jake were very close, like George and me. If I were to lose George, I would be just like you are... I would grieve forever...

    The only thing I can recommend now is for you NOT to try to do some of the things which Jake used to do. He wouldn't expect you to do everything he did. He would just want you to be happy. BUT--he knows (and so do you) that it will just take TIME..

    Hang onto God ---and keep on living the best you can.

    May God Bless You, Sweet Ruth.
    Hugs and Prayers and Lots of Love,
    Betsy

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  2. Praying for you, Ruth! I am going through a rough time of a different sort and, I too, feel like the picture that you shared. God knows that we mourn and He is here to comfort us. Do not be afraid to share your heart with us. But, at the same time, I understand how you feel about sharing too much--I feel that way too. Thank you for praising God in the midst of your pain. It is healing and, in time, God will bring you to a place of healing like you've never known before. But, it will take time. Until then, you are in my (and other blogger's) prayers. Father, wrap your loving arms around Ruth. May she feel your love and comfort this day and throughout the coming days in such a special and mighty way. May she cry her tears and know that you are they to wipe them away for her and to hold her up when she is tired and weary. In Jesus precious and Holy name! AMEN!!!

    God Bless you, Ruth!

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  3. Ruth, thank you for trusting us with your pain and grief. We don't grieve as those who have no hope, but we do grieve. It would be unnatural if you didn't feel the pain and sorrow of your loss. But at least we who are trusting Christ know that the separation is temporary. We understand if you don't feel like posting. But, if you feel like posting about what you're going through, you know your readers will be supportive. May God bless you and be very near to you.

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  4. Awww...Ruth. I wish there was something I could do to take all the hurt and pain away. I agree with Betsy. Don't apologize...get it out. Like Ecclesiates 3 says, there's a time to weep and a time time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. You don't always have to be strong, it's okay to mourn. Anyone who tells you otherwise hasn't lost someone special like you have. (((Hug))) We're here for you and we care about what you're going through. So very sorry you have to deal with this. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

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  5. You may not want to share with us but we're here for you and we care. This is your first spring without Jake and it has to be painful and overwhelming. Hugs to you Ruth, Diane.

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  6. Oh, our dear Ruth,lots of love and prayers surrounding you! Hugs! Ditto - on everyone's loving, caring comments! So true, do not apologize for your feelings of loss and grief and your tears. It's so much better to get it out than to tell yourself to keep a stiff upper lip. Love to you!

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  7. Dear Ruth,

    As I look at your picture, it appears that the flood waters are receding however slowly. That is kind of like grief is....a slow process.

    I remember after our son died at around six months suddenly all the feelings and sorrow seemed to hit us harder than ever. I believe after we lose someone so special God provides us with a kind of numbness that helps us through that immediate period, but eventually those deep feelings do hit us. But grief gives us an opportunity to learn and grow and share our faith in ways that would never have been possible before, and your Heavenly Father is right there holding your hand and leading you through.

    You are such an inspiration to so many, Ruth. Take your time. The sun will shine again just as His Son's light shines through you.

    You are in my prayers....Janice

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  8. It has ONLY been 6 mos. Now if you were still feeling this overwhelming flood after 6 years, we'd maybe have something to be concerned about. You have nothing to apologize for or try to hide. These waves will come and go and sometimes they will last a day or two and sometimes it will be much longer. This is your first spring; your first gardening efforts; everything is now different... everything reminds you of your husband and reminds you he's not physically with you any more. but he is still with you. in your heart; in your spirit. holding your hand even if you can't feel it.

    don't worry about us. you take all the time you need and don't feel you have to shake off anything to get back to 'normal' because it's expected.

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  9. Ruth, what are friends for but to offer a listening ear and share a box of tissues. I do however understand your choice and applaud you. I will be a more fervent prayer warrior during the times your blog is quiet! Thank you for your reminder today of the blessed hope we have that our goodbye is God's welcoming embrace. I am grateful that you are clinging, standing, and resting on the Rock and I am grateful for your blogger friends who encourage others while encouraging you. Hugs from afar.

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  10. I agree with what everyone else has said. It has been ONLY six months, just a drop in the bucket of time. For the rest of your life there will be a part of you that mourns Jake, and that is as it should be. There are times when the reality of your loss hits you and it all seems so overwhelming. You don't always need to be strong. Share as much of your sorrow as you want with us because it often helps to share a burden. If you don't feel like posting that is all right too. Our prayers are with you.

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  11. Sweet Ruth...My prayers are with you. Please do not apologize for your feelings...I know you have so much to do, but I would so much encourage you to continue sharing from your heart....You have some great friends out here that really do care about you. The best thing that you can do is to open up and talk to those that understand what you might be going through.. Holding our feelings in, will sometimes cause us more grief...
    My email is always open if you just need to talk or even if you just want to say "Please pray for me today" Most of all, and you know this....God is our strength in troubled times...He is there to lean on....Warm hugs and Blessings Sweetie..
    shug

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  12. Dear Ruth, sharing your feelings is not a burden on any of us. We are your friends!!! I'm praying for you - for God's comfort. I know you must ache terribly and I so wish I could heal your pain.

    Feel free to email or call!!
    Hugs and love...

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  13. ruth, i read each and every comment left by others. you have made some amazing friends here and clearly people really love you.

    i will share with you something you already know but i will share it anyway.....you never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice.

    beautiful photo today followed by powerful words. xo

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  14. you are in my thoughts and prayers ... may the Lord bless you in the comfort of His arms

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  15. The fact that you miss Jake so is only a testament to the deep love and caring you had for him. There is no timetable to not have it hurt so much. Just know that I am thinking of you Ruth, and praying for you to feel peace with his presence in your heart always. Hugs my friend.

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  16. Ruth, you are never a burden, and we want you to share your pain with us. shared pain is so much easier to bear. i can't even imagine how you feel. talk to us, it helps to say it out loud or in this case write it out loud. if I were there i would give you a hug, so feel this through the www. hugs

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  17. Let the tears flow down your face like rain May these tears wash away all your pain. After this may the Memories, and SMILES like Flowers on Gods good earth Bloom all the days of your Life.

    You should post often no matter what you post. You may be suprised to find how much we count on you.

    Hang in there. YOU will have, and Know, His Peace. Many Blessings to you.

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  18. I came back to say i got caught up in your pain and forgot to say anything about this wonderful photo. i love the way the reflection makes it look like the trees are so long and tall and beautiful. great shot Ruth

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  19. For me it's been 8 years and I still have days like that. The feelings never go away but you do learn over time to handle them. Blessings.

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  20. Ruth, I agree with everyone especially Betsy's reply.
    May you be wrapped in the healing wings of an Angel to help you cope with your huge loss.

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  21. Seriously Ruth, 6 months is not very long. Of course everything is flooding you! Sharing your pain is not a burden and it would probably help you. My mother-in-law wrote a little book about grief after my FIL passed away. She was a wonderful Christian lady. If you'd like me to send you a copy, just email me your address and I'd be happy to do so! At the very least consider keeping a daily journal to get your feelings out there.

    momaloft4@gmail.com

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  22. Dear Ruth,
    I think Betsy said it all in her comment and I echo everything she said. Don't feel guilty about grieving! It's natural and opens the way to healing. Hang in there, enjoy a rest from blogging, etc. and know we love you!

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  23. Ruth - don't think it ever a burden to share what you want to with your friends here. God provides support in so many ways and there's very eloquent proof of that here.

    As the song says, may you find comfort in the arms of an angel when waves of sorrow seem to overwhelm you. We know you will hold fast to the hope you have within you, that we all have.

    May God bless you and give you peace.

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  24. Six moths is not a long time when it comes to grief. From what I've heard, the first year is the hardest as you meet each annual event for the first time without the one you've lost. Not that the second year will be easy...but it will likely be a tad easier.

    As you can tell by the many loving comments here, you have many Cyber friends who are willing to listen and hopefully lend you some comfort.

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  25. Ruth, Life can be "overwhelming" so many times. Though your life will never be the same, keep busy with things and people you love, and at some point you will again find contentment of a sort. Your faith will always be your never failing "rock". Keep posting--I love to see and read your pictures and words!!! Have a nice weekend. Hugs-Mickie :)

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  26. Don't apologize. It's better to let it all out. Just remember that time heals. You'll never forget him but the pain will lessen as time passes and you'll remember all the good times.

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  27. You have nothing for which to apologize. When my wife died the tears flowed for much more than six months. You know that the Lord is your Rock, and I hope you know how much you mean to all of us. You do't have to post every day to be in our thoughts and our prayers.

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  28. There are no apologies or burdens. You're an amazing woman - you have my prayers and good thoughts. I love the beauty you see in god and the world. It is evident by your photos. your blog header alone makes me smile and feel inspired.
    God bless you,
    Shelley

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  29. Everyone grieves in a different way. Whatever works for you, do it. It is still too early for you not to cry. Time will take care of it. Stay as busy as you can, and when you feel sad and lonely, get out and about. Visit someone. I understand perfectly what you are going through. I even went to grief meetings. That did not last, as I came away worse off. I could not handle hearing all the sad stories.

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  30. Ruth my heart goes out to you..There are some many firsts..I pray that God will fill the void left in your heart and I know He will,in his own time.Take care my friend...((hugs))

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  31. Hi Ruth, I have found your blog to be a blessing. For one thing, it always causes me to stop and reflect on things. I don't do that often enough. Like others have said above, I wish there was more I could do to help you move through these difficult times. Perhaps just knowing that there are those of us who really appreciate your thoughts and photos will be of some help. I know for sure that I appreciate your kind comments on my blog. Ruth, take good care, and no worries about how often to post. We'll all be looking forward to your next. :-) Sincerely, John

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  32. What a wonderful post Ruth! Sending you lots of blessings and hugs!

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  33. Thinking of you, Ruth. Prayers.

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  34. I'm not posting very much either. Life lacks its luster without my D and I know it is the same for you. One soldiers on and keeps a stiff upper lip but!

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  35. We continue to pray for you...so many things trigger memories...especially of a love like yours.

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  36. Dear Ruth, I add my dittoes to all those comments above. It is completely normal for those waves of grief to sweep over you. I share your sorrow and continue to pray that God would comfort you and you will sense His presence in a very real way. Even when those waves of grief wash over you, and your tears flow profusely, hold on tightly to your Saviour Jesus and keep giving your sorrow over to Him. He will steady you through your pain and grief.

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  37. Prayers and blessings Ruth, blog when you're able! For me it's been a year and a half, Don's 86th birthday is coming up in June, it's tough just typing it here. I have empathy for you (along with your other commenters) and support you in whatever you decide to do.

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  38. May the strength and support of all of your friends hold you up during this difficult time. You are grieving and it is something you NEED to do. We all understand and have shoulders you can lean on. ((hugs))

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  39. Hugs to you.. wishing you continued strength.

    The word verification is "unraced".. grieving is a process. Take the time you need to handle it your way... unraced.

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  40. Ruth LV sure said it best . I find it hard at times too with the loss of so many family memembers in my life and sometimes I just let the tears flow and I feel so much better. I cant imagine lossing the a husband whom you did everything with. This is hard and may last a lift time with the process getting a little easier to bear.. Prayer is comfort for me. Im Praying for you as well. I know the deep pain that comes with loss of someone that you love more than anything.
    Hugs and Much Love
    and I too can not do it all and blog. My graden today calls me and what a beautiful feeling being outside.
    xoxo

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