Monday, June 6, 2011

Special Days?

I may as well admit it,I do not look forward to this week.
You see,it holds three days which have been special for various reasons.
On June 9,1972,I married the man of my dreams,but this year I am alone to remember that day.Anniversaries are not meant to celebrated alone,and I do not look forward to this day.
God gave me the following verses,back in July of 2010.
When you pass through the waters,I will be with you;and when you pass through the rivers they will not sweep over you.
Isaiah 43:2
This picture shows how I feel some days.The river is full and flowing fast.
I have to rely on God's promise,but there are days I feel like I will be swept away.


On November 10,2010,God took the man of my dreams home to glory.I am thankful that I know I will be reunited with him someday,but for now the loneliness continues.
Each month as the 10th rolls around,I feel an added sense of sorrow.


On June 11,1949,I was born into this world.
Seeing that all three of these are coming at the end of this week makes me feel a great amount of sadness.
No,I'm not asking for pity,but rather for your prayers.
God will not leave me,of this I am sure,but the sadness is something I need to work through.
The raindrops on the Tulip symbolize the tears which flow freely from my eyes on most days.

53 comments:

  1. Oh, my sweet friend Ruth .....grief has no time limit, does it. In a way, it is endless. "For when I am weak, then I am strong", but it really doesn't feel like it, does it? You have ALL my prayers, that I can promise you, my friend. You are on my daily prayer list.

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  2. You have my prayers; I pray for you for inner strength and to ba at peace with yourself. Be thankful you have the good memories, some women are not that lucky. (((hugs)))

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  3. I didn't read this post until after I sent you a message earlier. I'm sorry for your sadness, Ruth, and I pray that God will lead you through this week and into brighter day. Hugs, Diane

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  4. Prayers for the river of sadness not to drown you! It is a good thing that you can express your feelings of loneliness; many people don't express and then turn bitter. May you feel God's comfort and love hold you tight!

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  5. Ruth, you are in my thoughts and prayers. June 24th will be the one year anniversary of my mother's passing. I'll honestly be glad when all of the firsts are over. My son's graduation was bittersweet because my mom wasn't there.
    I can only imagine how difficult it would be to lose a soul mate. Don't feel bad about grieving or crying, because there is a time and purpose for that as well as for laughter and joy.

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  6. You're right, Ruth. Anniversaries were not meant to be celebrated alone. It's tough to face so many in one week. My prayers are with you. May the God of all comfort help you to find joy in the midst of your sorrow.

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  7. Those tears are precious in His sight ... our prayers continue for you.

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  8. May God answer the prayers of so many by giving you his peace, that passes all understanding, this week. It is only He that can provide the comfort you need. These days will come and go, but his promises are forever.

    A beautiful header, Ruth, and a very true statement in it. May God bless you, especially in this week.

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  9. You most certainly have my prayers, Ruth. It is hard to go on alone, but we must. Many thoughts are with you to lift your spirits and ease your pain. Enjoy your birthday--it is meant to be a day of celebration. You came into the world on that day bringing joy to many people. I think you continue to do that. Hugs, Mickie :)

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  10. Ruth dear, you are experiencing what I am dreading more and more. Although the Prof is still here in body, the loneliness is creeping in as I am sole carer and nothing can be discussed with him any more. I am just here to keep him entertained to ward off the depression as he is fully aware of the increasing shortcomings of his brain. I too pray for guidance to get through this to the best of my ability and to make the rest of his conscious life as pleasant as possible.

    God is always at our side, all we need is trust.

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  11. May God bless you and hold you close.

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  12. Ruth, the scriptures hold a wonderful promise. "When you pass THROUGH the waters,I will be with you;and when you pass THROUGH the rivers they will not sweep over you." Jeep preached a sermon on this, calling our attention to the fact that we do not STAY in the waters, but pass THROUGH them. It is my hope that you will pass through your deep waters soon.
    Love and prayers,

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  13. Ruth, you have so many wise friends. I love Dorothy's comments about passing THROUGH. Upholding you in prayer especially this week, they are indeed special days ~ difficult but special. Your photos just astound me, how you can use them almost to the exclusion of words. Thank you for continuing to share with us. much love, long distance hugs, and lots of prayer for overwhelming comfort and peace.

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  14. my heart hurts for you,Ruth, and i will pray for you for these upcoming days of sadness. the tears on the rose are beautiful and so are yours, tears are a good thing, God gave them to women for a release and a healing power, I pray now that each tear from God that rolls down you face will release the pain in your heart.

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  15. praying for you Ruth (((hugs)))
    and Happy Birthday

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  16. God will be right beside you and will help you with this very difficult week.

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  17. I will pray for you, Ruth. It is difficult enough to have one of those days in a week, let alone three of them. I know how that day of the month when a special person in your life dies can jump out at you for a long, long time thereafter. But it is only because you loved them so much, and the love you shared was a very special gift from God for both of you.

    At the beginning of a journey such as yours, it is hard to imagine how it will be in the future. The days will always be special and bring back memories, but the saddest of memories will be replaced with happier ones and a real curiosity as to what they might be doing in heaven and looking forward to hearing them tell you all about their new life once you see each other again.

    Plan those special days, Ruth. Make them "special." Don't let them just happen to you.

    My heart goes out to you....Janice

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  18. That Rose photo is just gorgeous. I think maybe grief is always with us, but time has a way of healing.

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  19. sending my thoughts and prayers to you, dearest Ruth. May God bless you and release the pain in your heart.

    oh, tears are rolling down my cheek.

    (((Hugs)))
    betty xx

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  20. Hugs to you, dear friend. May the God of all comforts give you the grace sufficient to get through this week.

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  21. you are so lucky to have had such a great love....

    fill your heart with his memories and he will always be with you!!!

    big hugs!!!!

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  22. I will continue to pray for you Ruth. Special days are always bitter sweet, memeories and sadness all wrapped up into one.

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  23. Ruth..I know this is so difficult for you...Your first anniversay without that special person in your life...You never have to apologize or feel bad about expressing your feelings...Grief is something we all feel in our life and it truly can be so very painful...I still dread every single August 16th..this is the day that my mom passed away and it is also the exact day that our precious grandson was diagnosed with Leukemia. I hope the best for you on these three days that are ahead of you...I will be praying that God will cover you with comfort and peace..
    Hugs to you my friend..
    shug

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  24. God bless you, Ruth. Each night when I hit my knees you'll be in my prayers. He will see you through and I'm glad you know that.

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  25. Ruth, you are in my prayers. My cousin recently lost her husband to cancer. I can't imagine losing my husband, the love of my life. I hope that you can look back on the wonderful times with your husband someday without sadness. I know you will be reunited with him someday in Heaven.

    The tulip photo is spectacular!

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  26. This week will be difficult but I pray you find peace.

    Sending you many Cyber hugs,
    EG

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  27. I trust in time, you will find peace. Blessing as always.

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  28. I always struggle knowing what to say in a case like this so I'll just leave you with this.

    Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

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  29. I pray for you every day, Ruth, and I will say extra prayers for you this week. I've shed tears just thinking about what you're going through. It's hard to celebrate a birthday with a broken heart. I wish I lived closer so I could take you out and try to make your day a little brighter...even if just for awhile. (((Hugs, prayers, and cyber chocolate)))

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  30. how are you?
    sending big (((hugs)))

    betty xx

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  31. I hope you can find something to smile about on each of these days.. something which tells you that you're special and loved and not truly alone. Big hugs to you. You're in my best thoughts.

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  32. I hope you find solace in nature Ruth.

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  33. Special days are always the hardest to deal with alone, but I'm sure Jake has his hand on your shoulder at this difficult time. My prayers are with you.

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  34. You are definitely in our prayers and I hope you have found peace and have been especially surrounded by God's love during these three days.

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  35. I'm back, Ruth. I thought of you several times yesterday, and you're on my heart again this morning.

    Lord, please wrap Ruth in a blanket of peace and protection and give her some special blessings to remember as well on these significant dates.

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  36. Sweet lady - may you feel His arms around you as your tears fall. May you feel His healing touch as you grieve. You are in my prayer journal - and I prayed for you again this morning. Hugs and love.

    Beautiful tulip ... xo

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  37. So sorry about losing your love. You are only a year younger than I am....can't imagine living without my love who I married in 1968. Praying that you will feel God's closeness this month especially! The photos capture your feelings perfectly!

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  38. Ruth, You are always in my thoughts and prayers! May peace and love surround you.

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  39. My thoughts and prayers are with you this weekend Ruth. You have done so well, and will continue till you two meet again.
    Happy Birthday too. May it be a memorable day.
    B.

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  40. Just waned to let you know I was thinking of you, Ruth, during this difficult week and this particular day. God's blessings to you.

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  41. Your my birthday buddy! (My birthday was yesterday, June 10th.) Happy Birthday Ruth! Life's milestones are never easy. I was told once by someone who lost a loved one that once you can get through every occasion in one year, that each year the pain becomes less. I have never felt what your going through so all I can say is, you are loved. *HUGS*

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  42. Happy birthday, Ruth! My brother was born the day before you...on June 10, 1949.

    I ache for you when I read of your sorrow and sadness as you grieve the loss of your husband and best friend, Jake. I have read that the loss of one's spouse is the source of greatest stress that any married person ever experiences. I just now prayed for you, that God would wrap His loving arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength to face the day.

    Is there a seniors group at your church that you can join? I hope you are able so celebrate your birthday with your son and granddaughter today.

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  43. Oh, Ruth - it is absolutely unreal isn't it? Your heart bleeds, my heart bleeds - yet another milestone, another goodbye. I have no words - just linking hearts with a fellow sufferer. I have started offering my pain up to the Lord - and I become very aware that He is sharing it with me. Oh Ruth, I do hope that this pain subsides soon. Love youxx

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  44. Not withstanding the sad special days of June, I hope God grants you Happy Birthday anyway with something very special to mark your day. I wish you a full measure of peace and gladness on this day and all htose that follow.

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  45. Ruth, Happy Birthday! My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Stay Strong, Ruth! I think Jake would want you to be happy.

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  46. You are still in my Prayers. Loss is so hard to deal with but I cant imagine the loss of someone I loved so very much.
    Too much to think about for me.
    I loved your scripture you added. It sure takes me away and with you.
    If in that water swim and swim hard. Fight the fight and you are .
    Its the process that God wants us to stop and lay it all at his feet just like you are.
    Blessing and Big Hugs to you. xoxo

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  47. And I love your images . Just stunning.

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  48. Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking of you.

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  49. (((Hugs))) you have SOOO many friends here that love you. I see that. They send you out so many words of love and compassion and care and so many prayers. You are loved so much across the globe. You have such a beautiful family that is by your side that will hug you and kiss you and nurture you till God opens His arms for you... you are not alone. You will see your husband again. Remember that. Reread all of these comments and the other hundreds of comments throughout this blog and soak up the love through the words that the others have given you even though they cannot be there to physically touch you. We all love you dearly.
    I cry daily, I weep even though my husband is by my side. I weep for the future for I have none. But the day comes when physically I will be alone and then my fate will be determined. Look upon what you do have now and thank our Lord for giving you these to help you along until you meet your husband and you will be together once more for it will be a most joyous day!
    No more tears, my friend, but only love and laughter for those that are still there to help guide you through.
    Know that I love you too.
    I'm sorry it's been hard. I can imagine but let the others be your support, let them be your strength, as each year goes by and the day my twin sister was taken away from me, I use that anniversary to help me gain a new happy memory and go out and do something in honor of it and I know that some day, I will be back with her... God only borrowed her, He didn't take her away... =)

    I love you Ruth... (((Hugs)))

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