Thursday, November 10, 2011

365 Days…..

365 days or one year have passed since I last gave my Sweetheart a kiss and told him,"I love you".The quick reply from him was,"I love you too",and those were the last words he spoke on this earth.

Here is the way it used to be.Together,happy and enjoying life.
This picture was taken by our Granddaughter Kai.

When we got married I thought that we would always be together,and we were for 38 wonderful years.So much has changed in one year,yet so much has remained the same.

Grandpa and Kai sharing a special moment.
I pray that Kai will always remember her Grandpa.

Yes,I have cried buckets of tears,but I have also laughed heartily.At first I thought this would never happen,that I would once again laugh.
God has been good to me,His love has not changed and it never will. Praise God for that.
Being a widow is not something I had ever considered for my life,but once again,God had other plans.

Both of these people,Jake Hiebert and Dorothy Schritt are with the Lord now.
They went home to heaven about one month apart.

Now as I stand at the start of year two in this life of aloneness,I wonder what God has in store for me.I know that I do not need to know just what every day will bring,but I do need to rest in God and all will be well.

One more picture of the way it used to be.
Oh,how I miss those happy times. Now all I have is the memories,but I am thankful for those,and the many pictures I have.

I am so thankful for each of you,my blogging friends.Here is a place where I can share my sorrows,but also my joys.
Thanks for being a part of my life.


  1. Ruth,

    I share your pain today for today was my husband's "home going" day, too. If you care to read my blog for today, go to


  2. Hugs to you always and especially today.

  3. Blessings to you my friend on this hard anniversary. I have tears this am reading your heartfelt post but also seeing your strength and faith in God.

    Your blog always brings me encouragement and inspiration (the lack of comments is because I read mostly through a reader) and I read each and every post. Thank you for being my blog friend as well.

  4. even though I have never met you or Jake, my eyes are full of tears for you. this is a wonderful tribute to your wonderful 38 years together. these photos and the blog will help your granddaughter to remember her granddad. that last photo of Jake in the trees is really beautiful, a priceless memory of him and his love of photography.

  5. I Corinthians 1:3-4 says: "Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God."

    It's a bit of a tongue twister in the King James Version, but I've seen the truth of it played out in many lives. You may never know, this side of heaven, the lives you touch by sharing how God has comforted you in your grief. You've shared a little of your pain with us, but your posts are filled with the hope and comfort that come from God. May He bless you mightily as you begin your second year without Jake.

  6. Hugs to you! It's already going on two months since we lost my 19 year old nephew "Cole". Time just has a way of slipping away.

  7. Oh Ruth, Jake's first year home-going celebration -- what a great post to commemorate. I'm so thankful for the strength the Lord gives - He us our rock, our fortress, our shield to whom we can run to and have solace. Blessings to you today.

  8. As in every day past so the Lord will be with you in every day ahead! This hope comes through in all your posts Ruth! God's amazing love has kept you close and drawn you even closer. I love all those photos - what a beautiful memorial of your precious Jake. Hugs!!

  9. God bless you, Ruth. What a wonderful post to your love...

  10. Yes, God IS good! His mercy is everlasting! That first year is the worst. Hang on to your wonderful memories, but trust in God for your future. Blessings and Peace to you,

  11. Dear Ruth,
    What wonderful pictures you shared here! I know it wasn't your plan, but you have been a role model for all of us...sharing your love for your husband and your faith in our trustworthy God. You are in my prayers today.

  12. A wonderful day of memories and celebration for 38 wonderful years. God bless you today and every day Ruth.

  13. HI Ruth....How nice to have the photo's for visable memories, and for sharing with us your lifes trials and what the Lord can do to help us through lives ups and downs ..where would we be without HIm!!
    Blessing and joy for the future years for you!!


  14. Dear Ruth ~ What wonderful pictures of happier times. You will see and be with Jake again, until then may you feel the continuous precious love and strength of God flowing through and surrounding you at all times. Your posts are wonderful encouragement of the love shared between two hearts and souls who have become one, and encouragement as to how God lovingly cares for us through each phase of our lives.

    Love and hugs ~ FlowerLady

  15. Ruth, you had me in absolute tears by the first two lines. But nothing wrong with that. You have the ability to hold people sway with your words. You have become a powerful writer, and this post gives a powerful message:to appreciate people and let them know, because we never know what the future holds. I have said before that you are a strong woman, you still manage to get and share joy on your post. But you also share your sorrow, which I think is such an important thing for us all. It is good for you, but also for many others going through this. In the bible, it says that a sad face is better than a happy one, and I believe this means that unless we have sadness, we cannot truly empathize with others or minister to them in a meaningful way. Your life and blog have great meaning, Ruth. Blessings to you on your journey.

  16. Ruth, I'll be thinking of you today.

  17. (((Ruth))) Thank you for sharing Jake and your life together with us. Those are wonderful photos and praise God for the wonderful memories. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers today, dear one.

  18. Wonderful post as a tribute to Jake...the time has flown for us, but not for you I'm sure...learning what your new life will be like...Hugs and thoughts...

  19. This is a wonderful tribute to Jake and to the life you two shared together. The memories are precious, and I'm glad you have those pictures as well as the memories.
    On a personal note, a year after I lost my wife of 32 years I felt as you do now. But I can tell you that God has wonderful times and blessings in store for you as He has had them for me.

  20. Precious lady, I cried when I read your post. I have been exactly where you are. I was married for 43 years when I lost my love. I was 15 when we met and 61 when I lost him.
    Life took such an odd turn and one I would never have suspected and would have adamently said would never, ever, happen in a million years.
    And then more twists and turns. Another death. More sorrow and disbelief.
    You don't say your age..but the heartbreak of losing a first love is like nothing I have ever experienced in my life. My husband has been gone now for 14 years and I am not over it nor will I ever be. It is just a fact.
    The fact that I remarried..and loved still nothing like my first love. I will go to my grave missing him.
    Getting married spite of my misgivings and panic..was a good thing. Especially now that I am as old as I am.
    My on my blog profile.
    It is possible that I will know the pain of loss again..but I now accept is as a part of life, at least as much as anyone can.
    My heart goes out to you and time is what you need. It is the only healer there is.
    Do take care...and know you are not alone in your loneliness and suffering. I know it doesn't help...and that it is something you already know...but it's true and one day may mean a great deal to you.

  21. Continuing to pray for you today and in the year to come. Healing is hard . . . but God is good!

  22. Blessings Ruth, You have been a wonderful friend and I wish you a wonderful adventure on this your second year.

  23. Praise the Lord for photos Ruth,
    What blessings they are.
    God bless you dear lady!

  24. Ruth,
    What a sweet rememberance of your lifemate. Yours is a story of true love.

  25. Prayers go out to you today. Thank goodness for memories to sustain us. And photos really help.

  26. I'm so glad you have such sweet memories. Hope you know that we're all loving you today as you face the first anniversary. Blessings Ruth, Diane

  27. Ruth, Such a beautiful post in memory of your precious husband. You are inspiration to all of us.

    May God be with you as you journey on.....Janice

  28. You are such an inspiration - even in your sadness. I'm sorry I missed talking with you today. I will call again. BIG hugs to you... I know you miss Jake more than any of us could ever know. I believe Jake would be so proud of you - and so happy to know that you laugh again... love to you - and many prayers.

  29. Ruth, I am so proud of you. You truly have done well---and I'm sure that Jake is proud of you also for doing so well... I truly don't know what I'd do if I ever lost George. I know that life does go on, and with God's help, we can do it... But--you truly are an inspiration to me.

    I'm so glad that you have your memories and can share them with your family and friends... May God Bless you ---as you enter year TWO without the love of your life.

    Love and Prayers,

  30. It was indeed very special that you both enjoyed your hobbies together. I'm sure the memories you have are cherished.

    I pray that you will feel a special comfort and sweet peace from God during this time. I know the holidays are coming up and that will be especially difficult as well.

  31. Thinking of you Ruth, and God Bless.

  32. dear ruth,

    what a sweet post to your love. thinking of you and sending my warmest hugs. and thank you for these wonderful pictures you shared with us as well.

    betty xx

  33. The wonderful photos and memories you have, are even more precious now.

  34. You know Ruth, it is amazing how close we all can be in the world of blogging....I am playing catch up on my blog reading, and now I am sitting here with tear filled eyes after reading your post. You are my friend and I can feel your heartache through this post...I know how much you love the Lord and I know that He will continue to give you the strength that you need...I can see that you and Jake had a beautiful life...Now you have beautiful memories...Bless you and warm hugs from one friend to another..

  35. a beautiful tribute to jake and true love....not everyone finds it.

    big hugs ruth, you are stronger then you know!!

  36. I know how sad you must feel and how alone. I'm glad that God is helping you cope with this and that you remain strong in your faith. I cannot imagine going through this without faith. I wish I lived near you and could hug you and go birding with you. A lot of marriage is just having someone there and to do things you both love. That is hard to replace, but I pray that God will have a new plan for your future to fill the emptyness. May God bless you greatly in this new year. Hugs and prayers from me.

  37. Thinking of you, Ruth, and how quickly life can change. I'm thankful for the strength and sorrows you have shared with us and that your faith is always a part of your heart.

  38. A beautiful tribute, Ruth - to Jake, to love, and to God's faithfulness.

    "For now we see through a glass darkly; but then face to face ...". Continue to trust in the promises of God.

    May you find peace and comfort in Him.

  39. Dear Ruth. I cried when I read your post for today. You are such a brave lady and I wish you much strength in the coming times.

  40. Ruth, this was a poignant post about how much you miss Jake. I can sense how much you are leaning on God for your strength and comfort, and some day you will be able to comfort someone else who has lost her husband. The Lord sometimes gives us trials so that we may be able to help others when they go through the same trials. (((Hugs))) Pat

  41. My heart aches for you... You are a daughter of the King and He is your strength, I can tell. Your precious husband is smiling upon you each and every day...and I'm sure so proud of how well you have done in this new (and unwanted) role in your life.
    What beautiful eyes he had - your granddaughter looks like goes on... and on...
    Many blessings, dear Ruth,

  42. Wonderful words Ruth, and you have come so far. Jake would be proud, and he will be waiting with more awesome pictures to show you someday.

  43. It is hard to believe a year has passed and I know you have had grief and joy each day. So nice that you such beautiful photo memories. God bless you.

  44. It's been a hard year for you, and there will always be a part of your heart that is missing. It's not easy to go on alone after 38 years of sharing, but rest assured that Jake is waiting patiently for the day you will be reunited.

  45. Ruth,
    I am so sorry. I can only imagine the pain you must feel. I have been married for 27 years, but it seems like my whole life.


  46. Coming to you from mary's little red house. Your photos are beautiful and I'm so glad I scrolled down to read your post about your husband and the anniverary of his homegoing. I thank you for your testimony of God's grace in your life over this difficult year.


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